Dating to serious relationship
Knowing where a relationship’s at and where it’s going is important.
The answer to these questions help us determine such things as how intimate we should be with our partner and what plans we should start making for our future together.
Our lives may also be intertwined with our partners, making the prospect of leaving very anxiety provoking.
Why Do It: Social science research has long documented the benefits of serious and long-term dating. We may be very open with our partner and trust them completely, but still be looking for other potential partners.
However, with that disclosure comes a stronger fear of rejection and what the loss of the relationship would mean.
We may fear a break-up and the emotional turmoil it would cause.
Why Do It: Exclusive dating helps us feel loved and wanted by another person.
I’m interested to see where this relationship can go.” Stresses: We often begin exclusive dating relationships because we feel that we’re not likely to find someone we want to be with more than our new partner.
Stresses: Because of the lack of commitment, we’re also more likely to worry about what our dating partner is thinking.
Whether our thoughts are “what does she think of me? ” we are uncertain about the future of the relationship.
If we feel satisfied in our serious dating relationship, then we begin to discuss the future and make plans for making our relationship more permanent.
Stresses: When we feel a greater sense of commitment in our relationship, we are less worried about our partner wanting to leave, so we feel safer sharing more with them.